Just the thought of analplay for some may bring an instant reaction of ‘ick’ or ‘ewh’ especially if you’re one of the many women who’s first encounter with analingus has been by way of a rogue finger prodding your rear without prior consent. Yet done properly between two loving partners analingus can bring you a multitude of wonderful sensations and is also an excellent primer to rectal sex.
If you have not heard of analplay being described as analingus, you may be more familiar with the terms ‘sexual rimming’, ‘tossing the salad’ or ‘licking arse’. Such crude terms are enough to send any nice lady running with her tail squeezed firmly between her legs, but if you are curious and open to new adventures, analingus with the right loving partner can turn from being an unpleasant shock to a very warm and welcome surprise.
Simply, your anus is lined with many delicate nerve endings and when these are stimulated by the tickle of a tantalizing tongue the result can be quite heavenly. The trick to enjoying these new sensations is to love your bum, get over any inhibitions and embrace sexual rimming as an incredibly sensual and intimate act between lovers. It’s the total acceptance of each other’s bodies with no part being off limits that can strengthen bonds and heighten the sense of eroticism.
Speaking of eroticism, another reason analplay feels so deeply sensual is because the pelvic floor muscles lie just below the surface of the anal area. If you squeeze them now you will notice how your anus slightly contracts, and it’s these muscles that compress during orgasm. Analplay including the insertion of sex toys rouses the pelvic floor muscles and intensifies all erotic sensations.
Is Analingus Safe?
Like all forms of sex, precaution does need to be taken when experimenting with analplay. First thing first, you must get clean before sexual rimming. Ensure you both go to the toilet beforehand and then have a shower together. Use warm soapy water to thoroughly clean your anus and you can even insert a soapy finger slightly inside.
It’s important to note that despite all your best efforts at cleaning, there can be times when fecal matter clings on to the anus and skin around it. Although fecal matter is actually stored in the colon and only passes through the rectum when it’s ready to be released all the way out of the body, traces can sometimes remain in the rectum, anal canal and anus after defecation, although these can be washed out.
Don’t get yourself too much in a tizz about this possibility and don’t get too carried away with your cleaning. You can actually damage or tear the soft tissues of skin on your anus if you use too much force. Instead use baby wipes, which are excellent for the gentle cleaning of all skin folds and you also get the added bonus of their pleasant smell.
If this still completely puts you off, you could consider using a Dental Dam which is like a condom for your bum. It acts as a latex barrier between the anus and mouth and while it might not seem very sexy, it will protect you from bacteria and viruses such as HPV, HIV and Hepatitis.
Talk to your partner beforehand, decide if you are going to be the giver or receiver. Using a dental dam might just be the piece of confidence you need to get you on your way to sexual rimming.
How To Give Anal Rimming
When learning how to give anal rimming, or any form of rectal sex, it doesn’t have to be anything you don’t want it to be. The simple caressing, stroking and gentle pressing of a finger around and in the opening of the anus is analinugs enough for some people. Or it’s the gentle flicker of a delicate tongue on the nerve packed area of your anus that is simply bliss for others. Analplay definitely does not have to be about penetration. However if you keen to move on to anal sex, then analingus is essential to prepare your body for penetration.
Like other forms of oral sex, take your time, relax and gradually seduce your partner by massaging their inner thighs or the backs of their legs. Gradually start to lick these areas and use your fingernails to rub around the outside of the bum. Blow on the anus and then apply gentle pressure rubbing around the rim.
The greatest satisfaction comes from tender kisses, loving licks and variations of tongue movements circling in and around igniting all those wonderfully delicate nerve endings.
If your partner permits, you can use both hands to spread the anus wide and then point your tongue and insert it in and out. If you are using your finger, be careful of your nails as any rough edges can nick the delicate skin.
If you’re totally new to analplay, positions such as doggy, or bending over may feel too vulnerable and too exposed to begin with. If you are on the receiving end you could start with regular cunnilingus, then as your body becomes more aroused it can be a natural progression for your partner to lick slowly further south. Just be mindful to prevent any bacterial infection that once he hits your bum with his tongue he cannot go back up to your vagina.
Sideways 69 is a good position to start out with. Regular 69 can be a bit tricky for you to get in to a comfortable and accessible position that you can both enjoy, but if you both turn side on, you can massage, lick and suck to your mutual delight.
When you are ready and feel completely comfortable with exposure should you try any of the following positions:
Doggy is where the receiver assumes the doggy position kneeling down and the giver kneels behind gently spreads each butt check to reveal the anus.
Standing Bent Over
This one is self explanatory, however you can modify it by the receiver bending over the edge of a bed or chair to maximize comfort for both parties.
In this position the receiver lays on their back with their legs open and bent, knees drawn up to their chest. The giver lays on their stomach in front. This position can be made more comfortable with the receiver laying on the edge of the bed and the giver keeling in front.